As a daughter-in-law, you want to make your own place in the new house and also in the heart of the family members. If these relations are additions in your life that make it happen for good. In this situation even when the women love each other, they don’t like the interference of each other in their specific zone. Mothers-in-law don’t want to feel excluded of house chores. So in order to avoid the stress of the house shares your part. Talk to each other and manage the things in a better way. As a daughter-in-law, you should address the issue peacefully.
So, what are the secret thoughts of your mother-in-law?
1. You can do it the way you like!Why are you doing it that way? It definitely means why you are not doing it her way. But how come you can get the nature of that house in just one day. No one understands that trauma of a girl and simply put down the things on the shoulder of the newly-wed daughter-in-law and keep hoping for the excellent from her from the very first day of her wedding life.
We agree that you have to take care of certain things but why to behave in a certain way imposed by them? You should adopt what can be adopted but not all the things which will make you unhappy later. This thing can be applied in both ways, one should adopt or ignore certain things to make a better future and relationship.
2.You are the part of our family now!
It is no secret that daughters-in-law have a complicated relationship with their in-laws, especially her mother-in-law. But believe us that both of you are in the same court of fear. One has the fear of new adjustments in her life and other have the fear of losing her best son.
3.Your opinion is important.
Your mother-in-law might have asked you this but what she actually means is you have to balance the things and it’s not only about your solo opinion.
4.Everyone has to make adjustments
If your mother-in-law is saying so, it directly means anyhow you have to adjust with their family. There is no other way out. Actually, this is true, but what we believe is an adjustment is okay if that brings the positive changes otherwise this should not happen.
5.She is never at fault.
Many wives blame their mothers-in-law for their hubbies’ shortcomings. Your mother-in-law will get defensive. This all will get messy and at the end, you and your husband have to deal with your issues.
What things you should avoid when you become a mother-in-law!
1. Ask my son to put me before his wife.Once my son is married, his wife comes first. I am already emotionally preparing myself for this inevitability. I demand to be punched in the face if I dare throw a hissy fit over the fact that my son is putting his wife ahead of me or loves her more than me. He damn well better love her best, as she will be the mother of his children. This is the way of things.
2. Fold my daughter-in-law’s laundry without her permission. I understand there is something sweet and generous about helping without being asked.
3. Mediate my son’s marital disputes. Mothers-in-law don’t get to have the inside scoop on the young marriage. Ew! If you catch me trying to involve myself in my son’s arguments with his wife, give me a stiff uppercut to the jaw.
4. Rearrange my daughter-in-law’s house. Clearly, the coffee mugs should be stored in the cabinet over the coffee maker. Any idiot can see that. But it’s not my kitchen, so I don’t get to decide where the coffee mugs go. If you see me reorganizing my daughter-in-law’s kitchen, or any other room in her house, for the love of all things holy, punch me. Hard.
5. Ask my grandchildren to keep secrets from my son and daughter-in-law. Parents rule. There is no such thing as “grandma privileges,” other than the ones stipulated by the parents, who are in charge. Always. There is no wavering on this rule whatsoever. Please don’t let me piss off my daughter-in-law and lose babysitting rights over a stupid forbidden bag of candy. Stab me with a hot poker first.
6. Buy my daughter-in-law clothes only I would wear. Clothes that are clearly not my daughter-in-law’s style, but I obviously have some creepy secret desire to turn her into me, because if my son loves his wife when she dresses like me, then that must mean he also still loves me. No. Waterboard me if I ever try to pull a crazy stunt like this.
7. Think my son is perfect. Also known as: “Daughter-in-law is always wrong.” This is delusional behavior, so might as well tie me up in a straightjacket.
8. Think my daughter-in-law is perfect. This might be even worse than thinking my son is perfect because it sets the stage for bitter disappointment once the poor daughter-in-law slips up and reveals her humanity. The straightjacket will do fine for this as well.
9. Enter my daughter-in-law’s bedroom without knocking. Lots of mothers-in-law think a light knock on the door is all that is necessary before barging into a bedroom or a bathroom. WRONG.
10. Offer unsolicited advice. Please, please push me down a flight of stairs if I give my daughter-in-law unsolicited advice.
11. Show up unannounced at my daughter-in-law place.
12. Criticize my daughter-in-law’s cooking. This includes surreptitiously dribbling hot sauce on things that don’t ordinarily require hot sauce, like spaghetti, or slyly adding salt and pepper to the soup my daughter-in-law has been slaving over all day. She cooked it how she likes it. She thinks it tastes good. She worked hard on it, and even if she doesn’t admit it, she wants to impress me. If I don’t gag that shit down with a sincere-looking grin on my face, make me walk barefoot across a pile of my grandchild’s Legos.
13. Expect my son to mediate a dispute between my daughter-in-law and myself. Just. No.
14. Behave passive aggressively.
15. Compare me to my daughter-in-law’s parents. Perhaps I believe my son and daughter-in-law prefer spending time with her parents. Maybe they have a higher social status, more money, better education, a bigger house, or healthier family relationships. I should never ever mention these things in front of my children.
They are a hundred times more things which can simplify the complicated mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship.
- 1. I want the best for both of you.
- 2. You are like my daughter.
- 3. I am so thankful to you.
- 4. Why you are not having breakfast?
- 5. Why are you so late today, any issues?
- 6. Are you not feeling good?
Feel happy from inside, stop expecting much, this tip can work in favor of both of you.
A great family combines a wife, husband, kids and grandparents. Your family tree is incomplete without your loving parents. Love them because they have loved you unconditionally. A bit of adjustment is ok, let them understand you and let yourself understand them. Chance should be fair for both of you. Stay together. Share yor thoughts with us below. Keep in touch for more on relationships and marriage.
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